To the days I felt lost (Summary and learnings)

Read the story here: https://yunn0510writes.blogspot.com/2023/02/to-days-i-felt-lost.html 

Event 1

Never felt much anxiety before, so when I first feel the anxiety I don't know what to do.

Action taken: 

1. Face the anxiety, review on personal performance/ expectations/ feelings/ major encounters. 

2. Find out what is the root cause to what happened. Define it as detailed as possible, what/ why/ where/ when/ who/ how. 

3. Look for solutions and act on the solution. 

Event 2

Having high expectation of myself. (This has been an old habit of mine) 

Action taken: 

1. Accept that either I am just like that or do more to reach that expectation. 

2. Occasionally do reality check to make sure that my expectation is not unrealistic. 

3. Create small goals or steps, achieve it step by step, there is no shortcuts. 

Event 3 

Fear of adulting / fear of unknown. 

Action taken: 

1. Be willing to learn, learn anything and everything needed. The more you know the more you will be less fear of. (That's how I keep learning.)  

2. Ask questions. Ask how their life is as the occupation you dream of. Ask how do they achieve it. Ask what it takes to be there. 

It's either you ask or you read. The lessons that took them years to learn are there for you to read it in just 10 minutes. Be it physical book or online articles. Read. 

Learnings

1. Be honest to yourself, face your true feelings. 

2. Accept that you may not be who you expect to be, but that is the way to get learn yourself. 

3. When things get tangled up, write it down. 

4. Jack of all trades, master of none yet. You will be there someday. 

5. If there is a problem, define them. If you can define the problem, you are half way solving it.

6. When there is a problem, can you change it?  Yes? change it. No? stop thinking about it, it's not like you can change anything.